Starting Over...Again!

Yesterday was a big day for me!  You see, it was DAY ONE of starting all over again!  I literally fell off my horse, so to speak, in my goal of losing weight and it has taken me over a year to get back on it.  If you go through and read all my previous blog post, you can see how motivated I was when I started, back in January of 2011, to take my body back. But now, here I am, eleven pounds heavier. So, what the heck happened?


HERE'S WHAT HAPPENED

After talking with my sister yesterday morning and my hubby, something must have gone off in my brain.  My sister spent a good long while on the phone with me reminding me of all that I and my family had been through in the last year.  She was talking to me about stress factors and as she was adding them up for me, it turned out to be quite a load of what the experts call the "biggies" in the stress department that we had experienced and we are even still going through, including a huge move out of state. She also shared what she had been doing for the last few weeks, going swimming and going to the track every evening.  As I listened, something must have begun to start clicking in the right direction for me. So at the end of my business day, I looked up at my husband and said, "I am going for a walk."  I went by myself and did a 30 minute, very brisk walk in my hilly and inclined neighborhood and I must say that I felt GREAT!  Well, I was a bit winded as I walked rather briskly, but it was great to be moving.  As I approached the last ten minutes, I could actually feel the muscles in my thighs begin telling me about it and I LOVED IT!  I was finally out of my rut, doing SOMETHING!  THANK GOD! 

While walking, I thought, I should get back on my blog, record my efforts and try once gain with that as well. So, when I got in from my walk, I went back to very first post and read through all of my previous 33 posts here on the 52 Club. My heart was stirred, saddened and observant of what had derailed me.  I read about my great progress in the beginning and my genuine enthusiasm. But by my third week into working out, and  taking new steps toward my goal, I had gotten really sick and was bedridden for an entire week.  Understandably, that had knocked me off my routine and had slowed down my momentum a little. But, as I continued to read, I saw that I had gotten back up.  So, what was it then that had caused me to finally give up?

As I read my second to the last post, I noticed that I had made reference to some "family drama."  I only had one post after that.  I stopped and remembered what the drama was and realized it had probably been the turning factor.  I really think that was the straw that broke the camel's back for me in giving up.  It seemed to be the ultimate culprit that created so much mental and emotional drain for me that I really believe it was the cause of my demise of my personal goals and focus.  I don't believe nor intend to use it as an excuse, but honeslty have concluded it played a much bigger part than I had even realized.  You see, I had discovered that one of my most precious and sweetest family members had been going through some horrible and continual emotional abuse by her new sister-in-law. I was devasted to learn all the horrific details! The pain of her abuse, the extend of it and all the injustice and the bizarre turn of events of cover up by the abuser and her family was just more than I could take.  To top it off, they ended up actually twisting the truth and blaming my abused family member and even myself  rather than owning up to the 2+ years of abuse.  Talk about evil!  It was just plain awful! I let it psyche me out, distract me and most of all suck the very life out of me. I lost my focus and honestly became depressed about the hopelessness of the situation. Most of all, I slowly began to take my eyes off the Lord and the weight of the situation ironically became the weight on my body.


WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

It is a bummer to have stopped what was a great beginning of really taking my body back!  And of course I regret that now. But as I am starting over again, I am hopefully all the wiser about keeping my focus on my ultimate desitnation and the goals I have to accomplish to get me there.  I have learned that I have to take better care of myself, not just physically, but emotionally too.  I have to make taking care of me a top priority or I am no good to anyone else, especially my family!  I have to remember to give all my cares to the Lord DAILY and trust him to make a way where there seems to be no way.  I have to remember that God is for me, so who can be against me.  I have learned to remind myself to stay focused on God and his faithfulness, his grace and that he will somehow, someway, someday work everything out for good. One good thing already has been that I have  also learned a lot more about abuse, why people do it and why others allow it.  (Even started a facebook group called, "Understanding Abuse" that has been an encouragement to myself and others.)

 Lastly, I have learned this:  Today turns into yesterday and if you don't choose to do something today for your tomorrow, your tomorrows will always look just like yesterday.  So, by the grace of God, yesterday I chose to start all over again to take my body back!


THIS TIME AROUND....


This time around, I am going to try and use this blog as more of a journal and logging my activities.  I want to keep the blogging less of a burden and to encourage myself with baby steps of my progress. By progess, I literally mean, just doing SOMETHING!  I have seriously been so mentally and emotionally highjacked that I am convinced the battle is more in my mind than anywhere else.  So, I will do daily activity post that will be just for recording the action I took for the day towards reaching my goals.  Then from time to time, (rather than trying to do so daily like before) I'll post motivation and inspiration post that help me and maybe they will help some of you guys too!  If you want to join in on the daily activity post, for your own accountability or just to have some group support, I'd love it!  You can add comments and say something like - "Hey, I walked a mile today.  Yay me!"  or whatever.  I am even considering renaming the blog, but still undecided on that one.

Meanwhile, I am hoping that my starting over again may inspire others who have stopped and started themselves; maybe even several times.  So, as I am getting back up on the saddle and I ride this old familiar horse of losing unwanted pounds to get my health and body back, I hope you will join me.  I will leave you with this quote from a very famous singer and I hope you will take it as a challenge and be inspired along with me:

 "Take a deep breath, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again." ~ Frank Sinatra

Let's get going girlies! 

Another Sunday Success Story - OMG! Heather Lost 130 Pounds!

Wow! These kind of success stories are super motivating and inspiring to me! If any of you are tempted to believe the lie that getting your weight off and getting your body back is impossible, you have to read Heather's story. She lost 130 pounds and has kept it off for almost 2 years now! That is incredible. Check out her story here:

First Name: Heather
Age: 23
Family Status: Married
Occupation: Stay at home Mom
Hometown: Lexington, South Carolina
Pounds or Inches Lost: I lost 130 pounds and I went from a size 20 down to a size 4!
Height: 5'6"
Waist: 25 1/2"
Starting Weight: 254 pounds
Current Weight: 124 pounds

Heather's Weight Loss Story!

When did you become unhappy with your weight?

After the birth of my second son. I have two little boys ages 2 and 4. I was unable to keep up with them.

What made you decide to lose weight?

I decided to lose weight for my health and for my two little boys. I wanted to be able to play with them without being out of breath all the time. I looked in the mirror and hated what I saw. I knew I had to do something about it. One day I woke up and I had this drive in me and ever since then the drive has remained. I love my new fitness lifestyle.

What were the most important changes you made to lose weight?

First off, I started keeping a journal of everything that I ate. I started eating small meals throughout the day and I tried to follow the Eat Clean diet book as best as I could. I also started drinking nothing but water. I started walking at first and then I started doing a lot of weight training.

What was most challenging about losing weight?

My body hurt all of the time. My muscles were so sore but I knew I had to keep pushing myself because the results would be worth it.

How long did it take you to start to see results?

I lost the weight really quickly, to be honest. I think being young had a lot to do with that factor. I'm also the type of person that when I put my mind to something there is no turning back. I was able to have major will power and turn down sweets or any other temptations. I was bound and determined to get the weight off and nothing was going to hold me back.

How long did it take for you to reach your current weight?

It took me a little over 8 months.

How long have you maintained your weight loss and how do you do it?

I have maintained my weight loss for almost 2 years now. I continue to eat clean and I continue to exercise 6 days a week doing both cardio and strength training.

How has your life changed now that you've lost weight?

I am such a happier person. I have tons of energy and I am able to be the mother I am supposed to be to my baby boys. Losing the weight was not an easy process but it is the best thing I could have ever done for myself.

How did ShapeFit help you reach your weight loss goals?

Just being able to see other people' s weight loss success stories during my weight loss journey. It was the motivation I needed when I wanted to give up so many times. I really do not think people understand how hard it is to lose that much weight unless you have been in our shoes. It is a big struggle and I am so thankful I did it. Being able to read ShapeFit's success stories when I have felt discouraged or wanted to give up so many times has helped me be where I am today. I really appreciate ShapeFit.com for posting these stories of people who have once been in our shoes and succeeded. Reading inspirational stories I think is really motivating and I hope that my story can motivate others too!

Heather's Weight Loss Tips!

Weight loss tip #1:

Be patient. You did not put on the weight overnight and you will not lose it overnight either.

Weight loss tip #2:

Set goals. Start by making small goals at a time so that you do not easily feel overwhelmed.

Weight loss tip #3:

Keep your body guessing by switching up your workout routines to help avoid plateaus.

Weight loss tip #4:

Do not overtrain! You can only push yourself hard for so long and overtraining will only wear you out and possibly cause injuries.

Weight loss tip #5:

Whatever you eat, always ask yourself whether or not it will help you reach your goals. If not, it is not worth eating.

Heather's Weight Loss Eating Plan!

Breakfast:

Oatmeal, egg whites, fresh fruit, lots of water.

Lunch:

Grilled chicken and veggies or a Lean Cuisine meal.

Dinner:

Always a lean protein with lots of veggies. Sometimes I have brown rice or a sweet potato also.

Snacks or Mini Meals:

Kashi cereal, cottage cheese, fresh fruit and protein smoothies after my workouts.

Heather's Weight Loss Workouts!

Weight Training:

I do a lot of full body strength training. I also focus on arms one day and legs the next. I always switch things up.

Cardiovascular:

Anything from HIIT cardio training (High Intensity Interval Training), running, step aerobics, etc. If it can be done in my living room, I do it!

If Heather can do it, so can we!!!

I find Heather's story so amazing! I especially love how her 5 Weight loss tips really go along with the mindset that we are embracing and encouraging our readers with here at the 52 club. I would encourage you to take from Heather whatever tip(s) that you feel that you can begin to implement in your new long term lifestyle changes and remember, be patient with yourself. We are taking our body back, one pound at a time!

Until next time ~ sweet and slender dreams!

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Don't Worry - Be Happy!

Jump for joy...and protect your health in the process

Are you happy? Do you focus on what you DON'T have verses what you DO have? And, how does being happy (or unhappy) effect our bodies, our health and our weight? Somehow, somewhere way back, early on in my life, I learned to try to always look for the positive. You know, the glass is half full vs. half empty. I thank God for whatever caused me to look at life that way. Hey - I am not saying I did or do it ALL of the time. But, I will say I do more times than not and that I think it has played a big part of enjoying my life more fully and being happier.

I got to thinking about "being happy" today. I started considering the correlation between the happier I am and the more grateful my heart is that the better my likely hood of reaching my long term goal of taking my body back would be. You know, instead of looking at how did I get so out of shape, looking at how glad I am that I am doing something about it now. See the difference? And, instead of looking at how far I have to go, looking at any and all small progresses and being happy and grateful for those. =)

Anyway, I just thought I'd share with you guys my thoughts and jot them down for myself as well. I read a great article today that really confirms this philosophy. Here it is if you want to take a read:

Today's lesson: be happy, live longer. Now science seems to back the glass half-full approach.

A review of more than 160 studies on the connection between a positive state of mind and overall health and longevity has found "clear and compelling evidence" that happier people enjoy better health and longer lives.

In fact, evidence linking an upbeat outlook and enjoyment of life to better health and longer life was stronger even than that linking obesity to reduced longevity, according to the review published on Tuesday in the journal Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being.

"I was almost shocked, and certainly surprised, to see the consistency of the data," said Ed Diener, the University of Illinois psychology professor emeritus, who led the review.

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While Diener said a few studies he reviewed found the opposite, the "overwhelming majority ... support the conclusion that happiness is associated with health and longevity."

The review looked at eight different types of long-term studies and experimental trials of both human and animal populations.

For example, 5,000 university students studied for more than 40 years provided evidence that the most pessimistic students tended to die younger.

In the laboratory, positive moods were found to reduce stress-related hormones, increase immune function and help the heart recover following exertion.

Animals who lived in stressful conditions such as crowded cages had weaker immune systems and a higher susceptibility to heart disease, and died at a younger age than those in less crowded conditions.

Diener noted that while current health edicts focus on obesity, smoking, eating habits and exercise, "it may be time to add 'be happy and avoid chronic anger and depression' to the list."

Reuters

I hope all of you are staying motivated and inspired to be the best you that you can be and are continuing towards making small, permanent lifestyle changes that can ultimately and in the long run help you take your bodies back. And now, with it being only 3 months until summer, let's try not to focus on how far we are from our long term goal, but that we have 3 months to be that much closer to our goal. And, if this summer we aren't at our ideal weight yet, at least we are heading in the right direction!

I want to leave you with a wonderful and inspirational song, and encourage each and everyone one of you to not give up on yourselves and to focus on the positive. Don't worry about where you aren't, but BE HAPPY about where you are going!

Until next time ~ mucho love and happiness!

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Another Sunday Success Story!

Lynne Frumkin - BEFORE

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Lynne Frumkin - AFTER

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On this BEAUTIFUL sunshine Sunday here in Texas, I am excited to share today's "Succes Story" with you. I REALLY LOVE THIS ONE! Lynne Frumkin shares her weight gain story that reflects the all too often typical pattern of us mommas who make our family our priority and inadvertently end up neglecting ourselves. She wakes up one day and starts on her path to victory, where she has now been for over a year! Check out her victorious story below and be inspired:

"I wasn't active, and I loved food -- ice cream, burgers, my dad's Hungarian goulash," says Lynne Frumkin, a mortgage banker from Great Falls, Virginia. When she moved to south Florida in her late 20s, Lynne took up aerobics and dropped to 135 pounds, where she stayed for years -- even after the birth of her first baby. But with her second pregnancy, five years ago, everything changed. "After I gave birth I weighed 157 pounds and I couldn't lose an ounce of it," she says. Caring for an infant and a toddler left her exhausted, and she found comfort in food. "I had no time or energy to work out, and I ate crackers, pizza and cereal late at night."

Then she moved back to Washington, D.C., and reunited with her former work colleagues. "People kept saying that I looked so different," she says. "I also realized that I had no energy for things I used to be excited about, like my job and my family." Lynne decided it was time to change -- desserts and pasta were saved for treats. She also cut back on white flour and added high-protein snacks like peanut butter and cottage cheese. In six months, she lost 20 pounds. Then she recommitted to exercise, hitting the stairclimber at the gym and weight training four to six times a week. Within four months, she dropped from 137 to 121. Now her energy levels are soaring. "I pack a ton into every day -- kids, work, time with my husband," she says. "I wish I had known that my 40s would be so much fun!"

Age: 47
Height: 5'7 1/2"
Pounds lost: 36
Time at current weight: 12 months

My Diet: "Breakfast is oatmeal and an egg-white omelet. Lunch is chicken or tuna salad. Dinner is grilled steak and brown rice. Snacks are usually protein shakes."

My Guilty Pleasure: "A really good meal out -- like linguini with clam sauce, and chocolate cake."

My Workout: "Four to six days a week, I work out for 90 minutes -- a combination of weight training and the elliptical machine."

My #1 Motivator: "My husband, Dan, helps out by getting the kids off to school so I can get to the gym."

I hope you got as much out of this as I did. Just like Lynne, we can take our bodies back, one pound at a time!

Until tomorrow ~ sweet and slender dreams!

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Powerful Words!

Ever have anyone say to you that you look like you are losing weight? I LOVE hearing those words! Especially when they comes from my husband. Which is exactly what I heard from him today. I was getting ready to have a wonderful Saturday with my man, and as he walked in the bathroom, he looked at me and said "Bec, you look like you are losing weight." Well, I don't think I have to tell you how that made me feel. Yes, GREAT! But even though it felt great, my next response was anything put positive. I was like, "Really? It probably is just the clothes I have on." And similar statements like that. Ever been there?

It got me to thinking about the power of words and the way we can use them and effect others...including ourselves. Encouraging words are so POWERFUL and in our culture, we hear more negative and discouraging than positive and encouraging words. It can become a habit. Since we are all about making and creating healthier habits here at the 52 club, what do you think about us 52 Club gals agreeing to make an effort to speak more positive words of encouragement to one another, to those around us and especially to and about ourselves? I think we might be surprised by how it effects our lives AND our goal of taking our bodies back!

Let me know what you think.

Wanted you to see my amazing man that spoke those powerful words to me today.

This was Christmas 2010. He's a wonderful encourager!

Hope you all have a fantastic weekend!

Until next time ~ sweet, positive and slender dreams! ;-)

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Overcoming Unexpected Obstacles!

Any of you ever have an unexpected obstacle try to keep you from achieving your goals? Well, I had a biggie recently! And, I am just now getting back on the blogging track again after a very unexpected setback. Here's what happened...A couple of weeks ago, I was hit with a fever, and had terrible cramps during my 2nd day of my period that wouldn't go away. I thought it was female, and finally realized something unusual was up. I booked a doctor's appointment and literally the day before my appointment, Dallas was hit with a huge winter storm that shut everything down for 4 days. UNBELIEVABLE! I was hurting so bad, miserable and literally was bed ridden for over a week. When I finally got into see a doctor, they confirmed what my sister had guessed, I had a bladder/urinary tract infection. Geez Louise! I just finished up my last antibiotic yesterday. And, today I feel great! Praise God! But, now I realize, I have a choice to make...

I cannot tell you all the "give up" thoughts I battled with during this period of time. I couldn't exercise, I felt totally derailed from my goal, and I felt like I was somehow a failure to myself and in some weird way, to my 52 Club buddies. I fought off thoughts like, "What's the point?" "Why blog?" "Why get back on track?" "Who cares?" Crazy, isn't it? But, you know what? The reality is that the biggest part of our battle really is in our mind. In our thoughts. That's where it all starts. What I think, what I believe really does effect my actions, my choices. Sooooooo, I am choosing to agree with victorious thoughts. I am engaging again, and building on where we started. I hope you will continue to come along with me.

I also am going to revise the way I am blogging. You may see some subtle changes as I evaluate and tweak what works best and as always, what makes this the most motivating, a light load, and most of all FUN! I really believe those are essential factors for the long term success of taking my body back.

I sincerely want to thank you guys for reading, commenting and participating through the month of January. I think it made a big difference for me in the wanting to "stick with it" factor and believing that doing it with others is more fun and actually more encouraging than going at it alone. I trust that somehow my setback will be worked out for good and I really, really am looking forward to continuing to share this part of my journey with you guys.

Much love and success! And until tomorrow ~ sweet and slender dreams!

PS - Thank you to my beautiful and all so inspiring daughter, Jessica for encouraging me not to quit. She mentioned us on her blog a few days ago and says she gets encouraged by reading the 52 Club blog. Here's the link: BohoBabyBump.com You should enter her cool give away while you are there. I love you so much honey!

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If They Can Do It ~ So Can We!

Ashley, lost 91 pounds and was featured last night on A&E's show, "Heavy"

If you didn't get a chance to watch A&E's new TV show called, "Heavy" last night, you can go to the link here and watch the entire episode (It will be in five parts). They featured two PRECIOUS ladies, Ashely and Sharon, who both had tremendous obstacles to overcome. Not just their weight, but personal tragedy, bad home environments and emotional wounds from the past. It was so heart gripping. I was like, WOW! If they can do this, so can we! I continue to be so amazed at these folks that have mountains of weight to lose and how they finally get inspired and then encouraged to do something about it. It makes my own goal seem all the more attainable!

Don't you just love all these weight loss TV programs on right now! They are so motivating and reinforcing and supporting what we are all going for...taking our bodies back! Speaking of TV programs, did any of you get to watch, "The Biggest Loser" tonight? It was great as always! I have really grown to love the folks on there, fighting their fight! Just remember as you see and hear their stories, if they can lose all that weight, we can lose ours!

I sure do appreciate you guys and sharing this journey with you. It makes me feel like I am not alone! Would love to hear how things are going for you when you get a chance.

Until tomorrow ~ sweet and slender dreams!

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